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The Hebrew word "shidduch" means a match made with marriage in mind, and by extension the future spouse. For generations, families, friends and shadchanim (matchmakers) have helped singles find their zivug.
The classic process has several steps: a suggestion, discreet inquiries about the other person, a few dates focused on what matters, and then a decision.
ShidduchMatch brings this spirit into the digital age: detailed profiles, precise religious criteria and, if you wish, guidance from a matchmaker.
Traditionally, a shidduch begins with a suggestion: a shadchan, a parent or a friend thinks of two people who might suit each other. Each family quietly looks into the other, including reputation, learning, level of practice and character, before agreeing to a first meeting. The dates that follow are few and focused on essentials: values, life plans and how each person sees the home.
Today this coexists with more modern approaches. Many singles want to keep the spirit of the shidduch, meaning seriousness, marriage intent and religious criteria, while having more freedom in choosing profiles. That is exactly what ShidduchMatch offers.
A shadchan is not a mere go-between. The role is to know both people well enough to suggest a meaningful match, to ease the exchange of information without making anyone uncomfortable, and sometimes to deliver a “no” with tact. In Chassidic and yeshivish communities it remains close to indispensable.
On ShidduchMatch, our matchmakers play this role for those who want it: making first contact, asking the delicate questions and helping you clarify what you are really looking for.
What changes is the range: instead of the handful of suggestions a family network can offer, you reach singles in several countries and traditions. What stays is the intention: everyone is here to marry, and religious criteria are visible from the start rather than discovered on the third date.
For your specific world, see Orthodox Jewish dating and Chabad-Lubavitch dating.
Before and during dates, certain questions always come up: What is his level of learning and practice? How does she see the balance between study, work and family? Where does each want to live? What role will parents and in-laws play? In traditional circles this information is often gathered beforehand; online, much of it is in the profile.
The key is to check compatibility on the fundamentals, then let the relationship grow. A good shidduch is not one where everything is identical, but one where both people want the same home.
A good profile reads like a well-written shidduch résumé: learning and education, work, community, family and what you are looking for, stated simply and honestly. Precision inspires trust; exaggeration does not.
If you prefer your photos to be seen only after both sides agree, you can set them to private.
Our members are looking for a lasting relationship leading to marriage.
Age, family situation, religious observance: you know who you are talking to.
You choose who sees your profile and photos.
Shidduch customs vary: Chassidic communities rely heavily on families and shadchanim, the yeshivish world often uses a detailed résumé and references, Modern Orthodox singles mix introductions with more independent dating, and many traditional and secular Jews keep the seriousness of the shidduch without its formal framework. Each approach is valid; the key is to choose the one that fits your world.
It is one's destined partner, the person meant for you according to Jewish tradition.
A matchmaker who suggests matches based on what they know about both people.
No. The spirit of the shidduch, meeting with marriage in mind, is for all Jews, whatever their level of observance.
It is a Hebrew word for the introduction of two people with a view to marriage and, by extension, the match itself.
No. You can contact profiles directly or ask a matchmaker for help, whichever you prefer.
Increasingly so, as long as the approach remains serious and respectful; that is why we offer matchmaker support and private photos.
Yes. The spirit of the shidduch, a serious introduction with marriage in mind, works at every level of practice.