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Divorce is painful, but it can also be the start of a new path. Many divorced Jews want to build a home again, with more maturity and a clear idea of what they are looking for.
On ShidduchMatch, your situation is known from the start. You meet people who accept it, and often who have been through the same thing.
If you have children, you can say so, along with whether you are open to a blended family.
In Judaism, a civil divorce is not enough: to remarry religiously, the couple must obtain a get, the religious bill of divorce given by the husband to the wife before a beit din. Without a get, a woman cannot remarry according to halacha, with serious consequences for children born of a new union.
If your get is not finalized, it is best to say so openly. If you are having difficulty obtaining one, local rabbinical courts and organizations can help.
There is no need to tell the whole story of your marriage in your profile. A few elements are enough: how long you have been divorced, whether you have children and how custody works, and what you are looking for now. A calm, forward-looking tone builds trust.
In early conversations, avoid criticizing your former spouse: the other person mainly wants to know whether you are ready to build again.
Children change a lot: daily logistics, where you live (often tied to custody) and the pace of the relationship. It is wise to introduce a new partner to your children only once the relationship is well established. Many blended families work well, given time.
State in your criteria whether you are open to someone who also has children, and whether you want more.
There is no ideal waiting period after a divorce. Some people feel ready quickly; others need years. A good sign is being able to talk about your past marriage without excessive anger, and having a clear idea of what you want now.
See also dating in your 40s and in your 50s.
Judaism does not treat divorce as a final failure: the Torah explicitly provides for it, and remarriage is not only permitted but encouraged. Starting again is not a betrayal but a way of continuing to build.
For halachic questions about your situation, your rabbi is the best person to ask.
Single parents have less free time and more to consider: babysitting, custody schedules, children's reactions. Many find that short, well-planned dates work best, such as a coffee while the children are with the other parent. Be upfront about your availability; a serious partner will understand.
When the relationship becomes serious, introduce your children gradually, ideally after discussing it with your partner and, where relevant, your former spouse.
According to Jewish law, a religious divorce (get) is required before a religious remarriage. If in doubt, consult your rabbi.
According to halacha, a kohen may not marry a divorced woman. You can state that you are a kohen in your profile to receive compatible suggestions.
No. You can indicate that you have children, and whether you are open to a blended family.
Yes, it is important information for anyone who wants a religious remarriage; honesty avoids bad surprises.
According to halacha, no; if this applies to you, indicating it avoids introductions that could not lead to marriage.
No. You only state whether you have children; no information about them is published.
Halacha sets a 90-day waiting period for a woman before remarrying; beyond that, it is a personal decision.
It is best to finalize the get first if you want a religious remarriage; in any case, be transparent about your situation.